Starting our family through adoption:
We decided to build our family through adoption. Once we decided to stop trying to get pregnant and start our new journey in the world of adoption, I finally felt like there was light at the end of the tunnel. A huge weight lifted from my shoulders. It was a major relief and I felt there was hope again for my dream of becoming a parent. Was it easy from there out? No, not by any means. The emotional roller coaster was just starting. We just decided to buy tickets to the amusement park a couple of years in advance!
Finding hope in adoption:
We originally thought we would adopt internationally. We connected with some families that previously adopted from Russia, and this was the route we wanted to go. We were also considering China, but did not meet the minimum age yet to adopt from their country, and we didn’t want to wait any longer. We started researching agencies, reality kicked in, and we didn’t know how we would be able to afford it. By chance shortly after that, I met a woman who was a foster parent and adopted a couple of children through the foster system. I know things don’t happen by chance, so we prayed about it, and ultimately decided to sign up for the training classes.
Can we do this?
We struggled through the classes. We wanted to help a child, but it was HUGE to me that this route may not lead to the forever family. That was what my heart desired so desperately. Through the foster system, the main goal is reunification with the birth family. In my heart though I knew I could not secretly hope that something would happen and then the child wouldn’t be able to stay with us. This wasn’t fair to anyone, and my heart could not handle being a mom one minute and then having that title ripped away from me the next minute.
Meanwhile, my husbands travel for work was increasing, and it was taking another toll on our marriage. My husband decided to apply for another job. This job would mean that we would have to move out of the area where I grew up and where all of our family was. He got the job, and there would be a pay increase. In the benefits package, they just happened to mention that they offered an adoption credit as a benefit. What?!?! That wasn’t even something that we thought of or questioned. It was the answer we needed to hear to accept the job.
So we finished our training but didn’t complete our home study. We packed up our house, cried as we left our loved ones, and moved to another city. We new with the move adopting would take some time but this move would allow us to adopt domestically. We were ready for a fresh new start and we were ready to pursue a private agency to adopt domestically.